Twelve Things I Learned At #SFS17 (While I Wasn’t In Workshops)

If you’re even tangentially a part of the sex positive community you’ve seen a lot of talk of the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit lately, or #SFS17 as it’s known on Twitter. For those not in the know, Woodhull is a sexuality and activism conference in DC that has become one of the foremost gatherings for queer and sex positive folx over the last few years. I’ve been attending the summit for the last four years1 ... Read More »

The Do’s and Don’ts of Flirting While Kinky

We’ve all been there right? There’s this cute boy who just started in your office, or the girl who sits at your local bar on Friday nights, or that babe from the gym. You’ve exchanged furtive glances, giggled over protein shakes, and shared your mutual enthusiasm for Bioware games over shitty beers. Every night you go home alone and every night you think about the things you’d like to do if you didn’t. The things ... Read More »

Ask Bex- Dating While Queer and Platonic Kink

Ask Bex

          Dear Bex. I’m newly single, and realized that the feeling I’ve had about my gender for many years now places me in the queer/questioning column. This is in part due to the fact that I’ve never really identified with mainstream masculine traits, and in part because of my experience with testosterone HRT due to a birth defect that caused my body to stop producing sex hormones in an amount consistent ... Read More »

Ask Bex #1

Ask Bex

Y’all I am so excited. SO excited. I put out a call for questions on Twitter a few weeks back and was AMAZED by how many fantastic responses people sent in! I’m going to try to make this a semi regular thing, because I frankly adore giving advice, mostly because I always think people should do what I say. To kick things off I figured I’d pick two fantastic kink questions people sent in. Hi Bex! ... Read More »

A Pup and Their Pure Plug

Pure Plug and New Bottoming Book

The first time my Sir punished me was also the first time I wore the Njoy Pure Plug out of the house. In the past I’d worn other plugs in public, mostly the Bootie, occasionally the Tantus Juice, but every time I tried my large Pure Plug it just felt, well, large. It was so substantial and heavy that the thought of wearing it for any length of time was intimidating. It was two days ... Read More »

Yes/No/Maybe List- Sex Geek Edition


Now, this may come as quite a shock to you, but I’m a bit of an organization nerd. I have been known to moan (appreciatively and erotically) over a well organized spreadsheet and it’s not an exaggeration when I say that cleaning my room makes me happier than most other things. Naturally, when I was a wee little sex geek and stumbled across my first Yes, No, Maybe list I was thrilled. An organized and concise ... Read More »

#BirthdayBruises- Adventures in Exhibitionistic Masochism


I have the best friends. Like seriously, the BEST friends. The kinds of friends that, when I say “Hey, want to come beat me up for my birthday? And maybe put it on the internet?” The answer I receive is an overwhelming, enthusiastic, HELL YES. Perhaps that needs some more explination? On September the 15th I turned 25, and as part of my celebration my best friend and I threw a spanking party. As you ... Read More »

Bites, Wails, and Puppy Dog Tails

Puppy Play

Leap day 2016, New York City. Somewhere right about in the middle of the intersection of 59th and 3rd. That was the first time someone called me pup. I’ve since forgotten what the rest of the text message read, but that word stood out to me, it stopped me dead in my tracks. I giggled nervously on the crowded street and squealed back “you just called me pup!” as if he had somehow typed it on ... Read More »

One Link At A Time: Adventures in Chain Fisting

Chain Fisting

“I have to tell you about that workshop I went to!” my coworker excitedly told me as I walked into my office last week. “OH Yea! Fisting right?” She had invited me to the workshop earlier in the week, but I had work and, as it wouldn’t have been the first fisting workshop I’d ever seen, I wasn’t super bummed about having to miss it. “CHAIN fisting” she corrected. “oh… right….” I imagined a chain of ... Read More »

Review: Best Bondage Erotica 2015

This isn’t the first time I’ve reviewed a bondage themed anthology and in my review of The Big Book of Bondage I suggested that I might be a bit biased, destined to love any collection of bondage you throw in front of me because, well, bondage. Luckily I don’t have to turn in my unbiased reviewer membership card because as it turns out this isn’t the case at all. Best Bondage Erotica 2015 was a roller coaster ... Read More »