Sex Education

Ask Bex #1

Ask Bex

Y’all I am so excited. SO excited. I put out a call for questions on Twitter a few weeks back and was AMAZED by how many fantastic responses people sent in! I’m going to try to make this a semi regular thing, because I frankly adore giving advice, mostly because I always think people should do what I say. To kick things off I figured I’d pick two fantastic kink questions people sent in. Hi Bex! …

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The Art of Receiving: How to Feel Your Pleasure & Make Others Want to Give It

#BirthdayBruises

I’m pulled over a cute boy’s knee, moments after our first kiss while he tentatively spanks me. “You know” he says in between smacks “I don’t usually do this, I tried it once before and it wasn’t really my thing, but you’re just so good at receiving it makes it really fun.” I giggle and wiggle my butt excitedly as he lands another blow. When people think about developing their sexual skills, they think about …

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Yes/No/Maybe List- Sex Geek Edition

yes-no-maybe

Now, this may come as quite a shock to you, but I’m a bit of an organization nerd. I have been known to moan (appreciatively and erotically) over a well organized spreadsheet and it’s not an exaggeration when I say that cleaning my room makes me happier than most other things. Naturally, when I was a wee little sex geek and stumbled across my first Yes, No, Maybe list I was thrilled. An organized and concise …

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Back to Basics: Is My Sex Toy Safe?

Is Your Sex Toy Safe?

I talk a lot about the lack of regulation in our industry and the need for consumers to educate themselves on what they’re buying. Toxic and porous sex toys flood the market, and they can be mislabeled without any consequence. It is our responsibility as consumers to educate ourselves about what we are buying to keep our bodies safe and our money out of the hands of those who have no regard for our health. What I haven’t …

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Back to Basics: Porous Toys and Toxic Toys

I do a lot of writing about safe vs. unsafe toys, touting my favorite materials as “body safe” and decrying all others as toxic, dangerous, and to be avoided. What I’ve realized though, is that much of the time I talk about these things as if it’s something you already know. As if you, my reader, are as entrenched in the sex industry as I am. And because it is something that has started to …

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Do We Really Need Science to Tell Us the G-Spot is Real?

G-Spot and Pure Wand

About two weeks ago Salon decided to write up a recent report from some Italian scientists, which they say “claims once and for all that the controversial G-spot is nothing but a myth (with a really good PR campaign).” It promptly spread all across the internet and this whole conversation started once again, because apparently we need science to tell us if things feel good. It seems every time some scientist somewhere even includes the word …

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5 Lies We Teach About Consent

Consent may be one of the most important concepts that can be taught and yet so many teachers, parents, educators, and adults in general are doing it wrong. Between the things society does, the things they accept, and the things they outright say, our kids and teens are getting a pretty warped view of what consent is.   1. No Means No. Why It’s Problematic: When we teach “No means no” what we are saying is …

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The G-Spot and Female Ejaculation

G-Spot Toys

The G-spot was first documented in 1950 by German Gynecologist Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg and was popularized in The G-Spot by Alice Kahn Ladas, Beverly Whipple, and John D. Perry which was published in 1982. Since then the G-spot had become a household name (though maybe not necessarily the kind of thing discussed over the dinner table) and many women have dedicated at least a play session or two to finding theirs. I was lucky, I actually found …

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Traveling With Sex Toys

Suitcase-o-Dildos

It’s only a little over a week until Catalyst Con which means sex geeks everywhere will be making their annual pilgrimages to Washington DC, sex toys, lube, and safer sex products in tow. Some people, like myself for example, will making an epic road trip and have the luxury of traveling with a trunk full of dildos, but for everyone else it may not be that easy. Anyone who has traveled by plane in the …

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Creating Your Safer Sex Kit

Safer Sex Kit

If you are a person who is sexually active it is a good idea to consider creating a safer sex1 kit. A safer sex kit is a portable kit that should be easily accessible to you whenever you are in a situation that may become sexual. Ideally it would be kept in a pack, purse, or utility belt, Batman style! Okay, maybe the Batman thing is just me. What you do not want to do …

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