Review: As Kinky As You Wanna Be

As Kinky As You Wana Be It has begun.

As the release of the movie begins the second coming of 50 Shades, so too begins the rush for sex educators to flood the bookstores and Google searches of the world with accurate and reliable kink education (instead of abuse and kinky fuckery dangerous stupidity).

We saw this a few weeks back with the phenomenal 50 Shades of Kink (from the even more phenomenal Tristan Taormino) which I instantly fell in love with and began recommending to baby kinksters the world over. As excited as I was to try out As Kinky As You Wana Be, I worried that it would be too similar to Tristan’s book (and it’s pretty hard to out do Tristan). I’m happy to say, it managed to carve out it’s own niche.

Where 50 Shades of Kink is an encyclopedia of information and resources, As Kinky As You Wana Be is a menu of kink; a list of delicious and tantalizing options for the beginner kinkster with samples to whet your palette.

Before I even started reading I knew I was going to enjoy the format. Shanna Germain includes a number of informative chapters on the important how-tos of basic kink, but peppered between them are erotic short stories and interviews with some truly amazing people from the scene.

As Kinky As You Wanna Be Contents
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As Kinky As You Wanna Be exposes readers to the many things that someone who is kinky may encounter, outlines a little bit of information on the topic, and then gives them an opportunity to explore it for themselves through fantasy. While the informational chapters certainly are useful, they are clearly targeted towards absolute beginners, people whose only experience with kink is 50 Shades or similar. Topics are broad, focusing mostly on the big three of BDSM: communication, consent, and safety, rather than spending time defining and explaining various kinks and practices.

Some of my favorite bits are where Germain encourages you to “Get Your Passport Stamped” and offers practical exercises for the reader to explore with themselves or their partner. For example: making a jar of fantasies or reading erotica to one another to facilitate conversation, or building a first aid kit and knowing the local law to keep your kink play safe.

The erotica really is the star of the show for me in As Kinky As You Wanna Be, striking the perfect balance between sexy fiction and education. The included excerpt from Jump or Fall by Janine Ashbless shows what educators everywhere have been trying to explain to people for years. Communication and consent doesn’t have to look like a business negotiation, communication can be painstakingly describing every little detail of what you want to do to the person in front of you, it can be teasing, smoldering, and exhilarating. It can be really fucking hot.

In The Wrong Woman, Kristina Lloyd flawlessly navigates the difficult landscape of rape fantasies in erotic material in a very clever way and Getting it Right by Theresa Noelle Roberts depicts the importance of being in the right frame of mind during an scene (and recognizing when you’re not).

By far, my favorite though was The Sun Is An Ordinary Star by Shanna Germain herself, which discusses the ever difficult topic of what happens when rough times come up. When life gets in the way, as it always will, how do two people come back together? Can they treat each other the same when everything else is so drastically different? You guys, the story is beautiful and sexy and may have made me cry just a little bit. Don’t tell anyone.

All in all, As Kinky As You Wanna Be is a great book for people who want to start to explore kink beyond what they’ve read in 50 Shades. It’s a great book to give to your friend and pretend it’s for the erotica (when really you just want them to stop making bad kink decisions). It’s the perfect book to share with a partner, offering things to learn, activities to try, and even stories to read to each other (and replicate). It’s even a good book for slightly more experienced kinksters, because that erotica man, whew. -fans self- That’s some good stuff.

Review Overview

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A fantastic mix of fiction and non-fiction, perfect for beginners to the scene.

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About Bex

Bex talks about sex, a lot, and feels this is the only way to reduce the stigma and lack of education surrounding it. When they're not trying to save the world, talking about sex to strangers, typing frantically, or sticking things in various holes they are usually indulging the other facets of their geekery.

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