Resources

I’m so thrilled to finally be offering my first self-paced online course! The past few months I’ve begun offering my classes online over zoom and I’ve really loved the way that it’s allowed me to connect with kinksters around the globe, especially in those areas that traditionally have less access …

Negotiation is tricky, I can’t count the number of times I’ve been in the middle of a scene and had a question come to mind that I didn’t have the answer to. What should I call you? Are you going to hit me where I really want? Can I kiss …

 There are a million reasons to love sexting, not least of which being the fact that you can be sexy without changing out of your pajama pants. As a person who was in a long distance relationship for quite a while, a huge portion of the sex I was having …

A Yes/No/Maybe list is a common tool in kink circles for negotiating scenes, but really, you could use it to negotiate… pretty much anything. It’s simple, each person involved in the negotiation takes a list of activities/terms/food items etc. and sorts each one into one of three columns: Yes, No, …

Conferences are a little bit like magic. They’re this tiny pocket of time that feels divorced from our reality, a little bubble of kinetic energy where we spend our days having conversations we can’t have anywhere else, and our nights feeling profoundly close to people we’re lucky to see twice …

Despite what your high school sex ed teacher may have taught you, condoms are for a lot more than just bananas and intercourse. Infections don’t care, and can grow just as happily in the mouth or throat as they can in a vagina or anus, any moist mucus membrane is …

Last year I attended an amazing sexting workshop with Tina Horn in promotion for her new book. I waited excitedly through the sections on dirty talk, where I was inspired to add language to my Yes/No/Maybe List, because I was already confident in my sexting storytelling skills, what I wanted …

Last week marks my final week slinging dils – after nearly two years in the biz I’ve decided to take a step back from my day jobs to focus on the freelance work that brings me joy.1 Working retail is always an adventure, but sex toy retail is unique. Every …

Time and time again, when I ask people their biggest struggle with flirting, it boils down to one of two things: “I can never tell if people are into me…” OR “But what if I’m being a creep?!?!?” In both cases, my answer is the same. Read the damn room. …

We’ve all been there right? There’s this cute boy who just started in your office, or the girl who sits at your local bar on Friday nights, or that babe from the gym. You’ve exchanged furtive glances, giggled over protein shakes, and shared your mutual enthusiasm for Bioware games over …